The absolute right of every individual, whatever their gender identity, sexual preference, religion or disability, to live in a consent-focused society. 

I’ve been regularly watching porn since 2012 for research purposes & I have observed how its narrative in general has become more violent towards women with even less interest in lin a woman’s or non-binary person’s pleasure. I know couples & individuals in their teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s & 70s whose intimate relationships or individual physical & mental health are negatively influenced by porn consumption. My years of speaking to Gen Z & anonymously collecting data indicated that 74% believe porn often portrays dominating male & passive female stereotypes. My data also supports the proposition that Gen Z believes if the practice of ‘Mutual Respect, Mutual Consent & Mutual Pleasure’ took a front seat in the porn narrative, this would in turn positively influence their sexual relationships.

In the meantime, ever wonder how much is too much? Check out:

Am I a Porn Addict?

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Source: Allison B Havey, Mission Director

Check which statements are true for your romantic relationship:

1. Do you share mutual interests?

2. Do you enjoy spending time together & feel able to be your true self? 

3. Do you feel a connection & common understanding between you?

4. Do you communicate openly & honestly with each other? 

5. Do you discuss what you would & would not like to do sexually? 

6. Do you feel the interest and effort goes both ways and isn’t one-sided?

7. Do you feel able to discuss what you like and don’t like about the relationship?

8. Does the relationship feel unpressured and unforced?

9. Is the sexual aspect of your relationship 100% consensual? 

*If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to all of the above, things are looking good.

** If you answered ‘No’ to even one of them, please speak to your GP & read through One Love & We Think Twice

Sources: Fumble, BBC & Allison B. Havey, Mission Director

“Love Doesn’t Equal Sex.”

The Trevor Project

Asexuals, or ‘Aces’, refers to people with a complete or partial lack of sexual attraction or lack of interest in sexual activity with others. Asexuality exists on a spectrum, & is an umbrella term.

Demisexual: People who only experience sexual attraction once a strong emotional connection is made with another person.

Grey-A: People who identify somewhere between sexual & ace.

Queerplatonic: People in a non-romantic relationship where there is an intense emotional connection that goes beyond a traditional friendship.

Aceflux: .When a person experiences some periods of asexuality and some periods of sexual attraction.

Experienced LGBTQ supporters stress that ‘Communication is Key’. & to be open about your interest or lack of interest in sexual contact with your partner. Ask about their sexual needs too. Try to be honest, and listen to each other without judgment.

Sources: WebMD & The Trevor Project

Does this even exist? Yes it does! Take heed before you press SEND. Since Jan 31st, 2024, sending unsolicited sexual images or videos of a person’s genitals could leand you two yearsw in the slammer.  ‘Cyberflashing’ typically involves sending sexual content via  social media or dating apps, commonly on public transport, parties or on airplanes (!).

Cyberflashing explained.  

Anonymous Survey Are Dick Pics Attractive?

We’ll share our results with you soon! 

Straight. Gay. Bi. Ace. Whatever your sexual preference, word is Safe Words are de rig. n the street is you neea word is we need to address ‘Safe Words’. Safe Words or a hand signals. originated in the Bondage, Discipline Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) community where sexual activity involves dominant & passive role play. Participants discuss boundaries & agree on a word or signal before getting down to business in order to esta;lish trust. requiring all parties to Stop. hese before asignal before a sexual tryst creates trust & sets boundaries. Once one partner uses this safe word or signal, both partners must stop. Men’s Health Sept 2024

I believe healthy sexual relationships are based on the practice of ‘Mutual Respect, Mutual Consent & Mutual Pleasure’. Whether it’s a fast, friendly fling or a long term love affair, I think it is important for partners to discuss what you enjoy & are comfortable with beforehand. If you’re too shy, I’d wait until you’re more confident. Think of ‘Mutual Respect & Mutual Consent’ as a silent. sexy contract to which all parties agree to before the action begins. Allison

I“My personal working definition of ‘sex positivity’ is operating around the topics of human sexuality, health, and pleasure with respect & without shame or stigma. This includes gender identity, orientation, sex education, nudity, relationship styles, body positivity, safer sex, reproductive equity, & more.”

Goody Howard, Sex Educator

The first time a student asked me this I nearly fell off the stage. But it’s a question am asked a lot, so let’s address it. Sexual coercion when a person verbally pleads, persists, manipulates, gaslight harasses another person to do something of a sexual nature. Young people share experiences of just ‘giving in’ to get the someone off their back. In every single case, he/she/they felt lower self-esteem & regretted it afterwards.

Seduction is far more pleasurable. Think backrubs, a dance, a long glance. It’s presenting yourself in a desirable way when the other person is on board with it. Talking about what you want to do with someone & practicing mutual respect & mutual consent is not an ‘Ick.’ It’s Sexy. but a turn-on.  For more, listen to genius Robert Greene on The Art of Seduction.